Respectful

OK guys and gals, let's have a quick run-down of why we should be respectful. Reason number one: Scripture says so. Do we need another reason? No, we don't. But here is number two:
Just as a husband giving lingerie to his wife is gift to himself, a wife giving respect is giving herself a gift.

As we prepare to give respect, we should know something of what we are giving. In the context of Eph 5:33, the word translated respect in the ESV is more often translated as some form of the word fear in the rest of the New Testament. This word is also very similar to the word translated as reverence (fear in the NASB) in Eph 5:21.

We can see that what we are giving is closely tied to fear. That your husband uses his strength to give you bear hugs in love rather than a full nelson in anger should be proof that he is at least somewhat respectable. Wives may want to remember this as they show respect. Your respect should be unconditional in Christ, just as you expect his love for you to be unconditional.

"But what are some ways I might show my husband respect?" you might be asking. Just as different guys feel disrespected by different things, so also they see respect in different ways.

Let me start with rule number one: Don't fake it. Empty flattery doesn't do anybody any good. I mean really, have you seen American Idol Laugh Out Loud night?

Second, watch how he shows respect. Remember, respect is love. Therefore, like a "love language" the way he likes to give is most likely the way he likes to get. Does he use titles such as "my Pastor" or "my wife" instead of names? Then try "My husband is wonderful." Remember rule one, of course.

Third, and maybe the hardest one, do Eph 5:22-24.